Nitroadict:there was always a focus on who was right and who was wrong
That is part of the problem, certainly. The vast majority of leftists engage in normative emotionalism, where logic and reason seem to give way to what is 'right'. The rightists seem to practice this as well, at least in the US. European rightists are a bit more rational, but are also far more statist in general.
It is horrendously tiresome to debate with these people. For example, I tried reasoning with a feminist (who claimed she doesn't hate men) that when one man rapes a woman, it doesn't result in all men being somehow complicit. The result was, at first, a vague argument about how patriarchal society allows men to abuse women more easily. And after pressing how this exactly results in collective guilt, I found myself at the receiving end of an emotional outburst that I won't repeat here. I have had this pattern repeat so many times that someone really should make a study of the cognitive dissonance involved. The pattern is always: make vague argument involving collective guilt/victimization -> when questioned with logic on the micro level, respond with another vague argument about collective guilt/victimization (preferably involving unjust social structures) -> if pressed further, repeat until backed into a corner -> throw a hissy-fit.
That is not to be interpreted that I am suggesting there are no smart leftists or rightists. Merely that they are quite rare.
Drag not your strength from government, but from the voices they abuse.